Low sexual desire is often referred to as a low libido or low sex drive and refers to your levels of interest in sexual activity.
Sexual desire varies from individual to individual, and from day to day. Changes in sexual desire are common in people of all genders, and particularly those who are in long-term relationships. It is common for sexual partners to have to negotiate a difference in sexual desire from time to time. There is no such thing as “normal” sexual desire, however if you are finding your change of sexual desire difficult, it is useful to consider what might be contributing to this change and how you can improve it.
Anorgasmia is the medical term for difficulties reaching orgasm. Some have never been able to have an orgasm, and some are able to have an orgasm on their own but not with a partner.
This programme is designed for people who want to rediscover their bodies, kickstart their sex drive, make changes in a sex life that has got 'stuck in a rut' and/or enhance their sexual enjoyment and orgasms.
Who can access this programme
Our interactive programmes are currently only available via referral to eligible patients of CNWL Sexual Health Services. New patients will need to visit one of our clinics in Camden and Islington, Haringey or Barnet in the first instance for a general sexual health screen. For more information about our clinics please click here.
If you are not a patient of our sexual health services, you can still access information about sexual difficulties, downloadable self-help booklets and further resources on the STL website. If you live within London, here is a guide to alternative NHS services which are available within the area. This guide also provides details for country-wide self-funded support. If you live outside of London you can seek support for sexual difficulties by speaking with your GP or attending your local sexual health clinic.
What this programme involves
Stage 1 - Assessment
- Questions about you, your health, and your sexual difficulties
- A medical letter to download
Stage 2 – Psychoeducation
- What can cause difficulties with sexual desire, enjoyment of sex and orgasm
- How arousal and desire work
- Worrying thoughts
- Conditions for good sex
- Other contributing factors
- Review
Stage 3 - Exercises to complete alone
- Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles
- Mindfulness
- Exploring self touch
- Review
Stage 4 - Exercises you can do with a partner (if relevant for you)
- Working together
- Getting reacquainted
- Exploring touch together
- Beliefs about initiation
- Learning from each other
- Review
Stage 5 – Reflection and evaluation
- Reflection –what has been helpful and what to take forward
- Evaluation of your difficulties now
- Feedback on your progress
- What next?