My partner wonders why I haven’t had an orgasm?
You may want to talk to them about it, and explain that you don’t always orgasm/come. Don’t apologise — you haven’t done anything wrong and there’s nothing to be ashamed of.
People don’t always come every time they have sex. Some people fake orgasms because they worry what their partner will think. You may want to ask yourself if faking it is helping you, especially if there is something your partner could do differently to help you have an orgasm. Perhaps tell them what’s happening, as honestly as you can – this is respectful to both yourself and them, and may help you discover more enjoyable sex.
It can also be helpful to remember that the majority of people with vaginas and vulvas cannot orgasm from penetration alone, and will need clitoral stimulation is order to come.
How can I practise safer sex?
There are a number of ways in which you can have safer sex in order to protect yourself and partners from sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and from unwanted pregnancy. These include using condoms, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), to protect against the transmission of HIV, and different contraceptive methods.
In this booklet, we have chosen not to refer to any one of these specific methods, and encourage you to make your own decisions about protecting yourself and others in each instance of sexual activity you undertake. Your local sexual health clinic can provide you with free STI testing and information and advice on practising safer sex.